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Do You Find Yourself COMPLAINING About Your Busy Schedule?

I hear a lot of parents complain about how busy their family schedule is. Their weekly calendar is overflowing with lessons, classes, sports, and more sports. There’s snack in the car, drive-through dinners, baths, homework, and bedtime battles. Parents, and kids, feel overrun with obligations, rehearsals, and carpooling. “We’re so busy, there’s no downtime! No family time! No fun!”

Who’s to blame?

Prepare yourself for this one: Parents are.

Did I offend anyone? Keep reading, because you’ll see there’s truth to this.

I grew up on a farm, so we didn’t do much outside of playing on the farm, but my sisters and I had our share of sports too. And while farm life might not translate to everyday life for you, don’t think I’m missing the mark here because nowadays my family can be just as at fault here. The difference being that it’s the exception to the rule. If you think about, we as parents are the ones making these decisions; we’re the ones filling up the calendar.

When our children go to school each day, they have an advocate. Their teachers arm them with all they need to succeed. At home, you are your child’s advocate. If family time is important to you, provide it. If family dinners matter, schedule them. If you feel swamped, cut back on the activities. This is your call, and it’s your responsibility. You create the childhood and the family life that you desire. 

In our family of six, we have a rule: one activity per season. Of course, like everything else in parenthood, there’s always an exception, but this is a good rule of thumb. What are your family’s priorities? What are your boundaries? Open up this dialogue with your spouse.  Place a value on family time, on being a playful. Recognize that you can ease the tension on your calendar and create more joy in your family life.

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